In Memory

Shelley Ruskin (Nass)

Shelley Ruskin (Nass)

Shelley Ann (Ruskin) Nass, age 70, of Reno, NV, died on October 12, 2019. After being diagnosed with Stage 4 pancreatic cancer on July 4, 2018, she battled, for over 15 months, before the beast won. The real winner, however, was Shelley because she gave no quarter valiantly undergoing three separate chemotherapy treatments, one aborted Whipple Procedure, and had been accepted into an experimental drug program at the University of California at San Francisco Medical Center. She battled with ferocity and never gave up. Everyone who knew of this battle admired her gumption and determination. Time just ran out for this wonderful human being. She was a mother, sister, and wife who will be remembered by everyone who knew her. She leaves behind her only daughter, Stacey Nass, of Denver, CO, who grew up to be a loving, persistent, and brave woman. Stacey was always her mother's biggest cheerleader and vice versa. She also leaves behind her best friend and sister, Sherry Ruskin, of San Francisco, CA. They helped each other through the best of times and the worst of times. She developed a warm, loving relationship with her step-son, Jonathan Aring, of Folsom, CA and her three step-grandchildren, Morgan, Wesley, and Harrison. Shelley had cherished memories of and discussions with her sister-in-law, Barbara Murphy, of Oakland, CA. Additionally, Shelley will be remembered by many cousins in the Kansas City area. She was preceded in death by her mother, Harriet Ruskin Margolin, her father, Sam Ruskin, and her sister, Shirley Ruskin. Shelley was born, raised, and lived in the greater Kansas City area for most of her life. She attended Southwest High School and received her accounting degree from Avila College. When she retired in 2013, she was a systems analyst for Sprint in their tax department. In 2017, Shelley and her true love, soulmate, and husband of 37 years, Dave Aring, of Reno, NV moved to Reno to seek fame and fortune through one of their favorite hobbies gambling. While not quite reaching that goal, they had a fabulous time trying. She was a life-long, bleeding-heart liberal Democrat. She performed volunteer work tutoring grammar school students. She donated time and money to Planned Parenthood, Harvesters, as well as various liberal organizations. She will be buried at Mountain View Cemetery in Reno, NV. Shelley requested that money to be spent on cards, flowers, etc. not be spent; but instead, donated to help liberal causes that will help all of mankind. (Comments can be made at:

Published in Kansas City Star on Oct. 18, 2019

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02/14/20 11:40 AM #1    

Janet Jackson (Andrews)

Shelley had a beautiful smile and a beautiful heart. She and I lost touch as we grew older, but I never forgot the fun times we had. She will be missed. 

02/14/20 02:57 PM #2    

Janice Akers (Swain)

I got to know Shelley in high school because our mothers went to school together.  We reconnected a few years ago throough this website, when I learned her mother was suffering from dementia, which I had been through with my father.  I am so sorry to hear about what she went through herself, & wish I had kept in touch.

02/14/20 04:46 PM #3    

Nancy Messplay (Morgan)

Shelley was one of my closest friends while we were at Bingham.  Her family welcomed me in their home for a Seder -- so many years ago and yet still a warm memory.  

02/15/20 10:27 AM #4    

Marsha Stiefel (Pinson)

I have fond memories of Shelley and think now especially of her smile and rich voice and laugh. It is a sad season...

02/15/20 01:33 PM #5    

Larry Arlan

i think i have known shelly since early grade school...very sad to lose an old friend..even though not much communication in many still hurts...sweet person..sweet smile..always..

02/16/20 12:05 AM #6    

Sandi Borcherding (Henry)

Shelley was my across the street neighbor at 68th and Oak. We were very close in elementary school. We attended JC Nichols. We would watch 77 Sunset Strip and Route 66 together with our other good friend, Jane Minnick. We also enjoyed watching Elvis movies with Shelley's sister, Shirley. One or our favorite activities was to have a sleep overs, particulary every Friday the 13th. It was a ritual, and we may have gotten into a little bit of trouble occasionally. Shelley taught me about Hanukkah, and I taught her about Christmas. I vividly remember her loving the Christmas tree. Shelley was a wonderful, generous person. I am so sorry her last years were ravaged with cancer.  Bless you Shelley, and may you rest in peace.

02/16/20 02:46 PM #7    

Debra (Dvora) Greenberg (Krevat)

I, too, have known Shelley since JC Nichols. It makes me sad to see that she suffered so in these last years.  However, it makes me happy that she was married to her soul-mate and that she had the ability to live her dream! My condolences to her family. May her memory be a blessing for all who knew her. 

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